MATCHING ACCESORIES: HOW TO MAKE THE BEST OF A 3+ BDSM FAMILY by Wølfy! *

Humans are a species that are motivated by upgrades. Replacing a regular cone with a waffle cone, washing bathrooms to managing the team members, moving from an apartment to your first home, they all motivate us to continue progressing into the future. Upgrades are usually always good, so there is no reason not to implement them in everything; Even in BDSM.

I like to think of BDSM families as a person with accesories, the person or people being Dom(s)/Domme(s), and sub(s) as accesories. The sub is used and gets satisfaction and the Dom uses and gets satisfaction.

So when a relationship starts, all is well. Everyone is happy, sub is being used, Dom is using. Once that "newly wed" period is over, the couple really start to love one another, and all is well with the world...
Then our natural instinct to upgrade comes into play. "Well if 1 sub gave me so much happiness, then 2 should give me double the happiness!".

When looking to expand your horizons, make sure your sub is ok with this. They may submit very easily and do everthing you say, but humans can still feel betrayed, or worse not good enough, when Dom adds another someone to the equation. Doms, make sure your sub knows what you expect when you adopt, so nobody is caught treading any prohibited territory (dont want the subs to play with each other unsupervised? Make it clear!). Communication is always key; Dont bullcrap your partner(s) and just be honest! With the truth, you never lose!

Next, make sure that your family members can co-exist and love one another for who they are. Why would someone wearing all black wear a bright yellow tophat? Be consistent to avoid hurting anyone. Finding traits we have in common without being exactly the same is how humans make friends.

Third, make sure you know what you are going into beforehand. More people means more time focusing on everybody, more arguements to sort out (nobody's perfect right?), more family bonding, ect. If your not sure, many people usually try out a "trial period", where two agree to try out the new relationship before commiting to it.

Families can be a great catalyst for more activities to take place and more group bonding, but remember to always be honest to yourself. If you think that you cannot handle it, tell your partner! They should always be thinking of what's benefits everyone, not just one person.